Every time I am out in public with my 2 boys, people always ask me (seeing that I am obviously pregnant) "is it a girl this time?" I always respond with, "no" and smile. You would be surprised with some of the responses I get. Most people have this look of disappointment on their face, and then they say, "I'm sorry". This one woman started laughing so hard, she could hardly take my food order. I mean, am I the first woman in history to have 3 boys??? I don't get it. Maybe it's because sometimes I don't have "total" control over my kids when we are out and about (yes sometimes I am THAT mom, you know the one I'm talking about), so people are thinking, wow she doesn't need any more kids, she can't control the ones she has! What's wrong with having all boys?
Do I want a girl? Sure, but it's just not meant to be (for now maybe), and I am totally ok with 3 boys....right? I mean I DO get tired of cleaning up all the pee and mess that comes with boys. I get tired of breaking up all the brawls that can and will occur anywhere...like your friends baby shower...in the middle of the present opening circle...it happened. Boys are VERY different than girls, even from the beginning as babies. I will look at some of my friends daughters, they are so cute and neat, they will just sit quietly and read a book...then there are my boys, who will loudly declare in a crowded doctors office, "I HAVE TO GO POO POO!!!!" or cry and throw a massive tantrum, because they haven't eaten in 20 minutes. I love my boys with every ounce of love I have, no doubt. Do I get overwhelmed, almost daily? Yes. Is it hard staying so busy with them? Yes Would I change it? Never. My life is so full, I don't know what I ever did without kids. My husband and I have truly discussed that, "what did we do before kids?" You have this void in your life, before you have kids, you don't always know it's there, and then other times you do. I don't think we knew ours was there..until after we had our first son, and all was well and perfect in our lives. We were full and in love with life, still are.
I said all that to say this, again, what's wrong with having all boys? I personally believe boys are harder children than girls are, but in the teenage years girls will become more difficult to raise. PERSONALLY, now I may have a total different outlook when my boys get older! I get the honor of raising up godly men, and I think we can all agree that we need more of them in this crazy world. I get the blessing of watching them treat their future wives, with the respect that I taught them. I get to teach them about life and the importance of being a gentlemen and having manners. I have the opportunity to make them great. That to me, is a big responsibility. Sometimes I feel like I fail at that daily, I feel like I yell too much or didn't spend enough quality time with them, but as I lay them down at night, they are so loving and genuine and they say to me "I love you" with these huge smiles, and I get these huge hugs...that lets me know, I'm doing something right. As I was making some birthday decorations for my almost 3 year old, I asked him if he liked them, he said yes, and then he said "I'm so proud of you". I could have cried, because that meant, in all the chaos and all the tears (from us both) I was getting through to him. All I can do is trust in the Lord to lead me and guide me on this parenting journey, cause He knows I would NOT be able to do it with out him!!! I am currently reading 2 books that are really helping me understand males, not only my children, but my husband as well. Wild at heart- By John Elderdge and Shepherding a child's heart- by Tedd Tripp They are both great reads, but if you have boys, I would definitely recommend Wild at heart.
Chelsea
Hey love this post! You make me feel better about the craziness in my life. You're right about boys being way different than girls. I wouldn't have believed it until I had my boy he tackles me constantly. He is always on the move. At this age kylen would sit and play puzzles on the iPod. Holden won't do anything but throw it as hard as he can. I'm going to have to get those books. I also look forward to seeing how the homeschooling goes because I plan to do that for the same reasons you are.
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